8 Millennial Women on How Much Sex They’re Having

Ever wanted to know how much sex people around you are *really* having? Us, too.

According to a recent U.S. study, millennials (those born between the early 1980s to mid 1990s) have fewer sexual partners and are having less sex in their 20s and 30s compared to GenXers and Baby Boomers at the same age. They’re also apparently holding onto on their virginity for longer, despite being more chill than other generations about pre-marital sex.

Apart from a generational shift toward keeping it in your pants, relationship status can affect the amount of sexy times you’re having, too. According to a recent survey by Cosmopolitan, more than 50 percent of married women in their 20s wish they were having more sex. (Respondents cited reasons like being busy, tired and stressed from work for their decreased sexual encounters.) And when it comes to partnering up, many single women today are over …

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Dr. Ruth Has Some Sex Advice For Gen Z

About two minutes after Dr. Ruth Westheimer walks into Refinery29’s office, she asks me to tell her about the company. Is Refinery29 a newspaper? A magazine? “It’s a website for millennial and Gen Z women women,” I tell her. “Gen what? Write that down for me.” So our interview begins with me writing down “Gen Z = ages 22 and under” in my notebook, tearing out the page, and handing it to her.

At age 91 and a half — and yes, she counts the half — Dr. Ruth is working as hard as she ever has. Next year will mark 40 years since her first radio show, Sexually Speaking, kicked off her media career as a sex educator, though her work in human sexuality began earlier. (Her first gig was as a researcher at Planned Parenthood in the 1960s.) Today, she’s promoting her latest book, the fourth edition of …

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Here’s How Millennial Sex Is Different From Previous Generations

Is it just me, or does it seem like older generations love to pick apart the way we run our love lives? It’s like everything about how we date and have sex is “wrong” in their eyes — from our reliance on dating apps to meet people to our alleged affinity for hookup culture — but in reality, how Millennials have sex compared to past generations isn’t wrong… it’s just different.

“I think the sky is the limit for Millennial sex, but the anxieties are no less present,” Hannah Simpson, transgender advocate, writer, and educator & LGBTQ millennial expert, tells Bustle. “We have grown up having instant, stigma-free access to all kinds of sexual information and imagery. Nobody has to face another human being to rent adult videos. With more information, we are more picky with our partners and have higher expectations.”

Since some of us grew up with access …

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A millennial relationship expert gave us her best advice for dating and finding love, and you’re going to want to take notes

If you’re young and single, you know it’s rough out there. Between fuccbois on Tinder and self-esteem killing trolls on social media, the modern dating world can be savage. That’s why we decided to ask an expert for some millennial dating advicethis link opens in a new tab.

Meet Alysha Jeney, a 30-year-old married relationship counselor based in Denver, Coloradothis link opens in a new tab. Yep, you read that right — she’s a counselor, a millennial herself, and she’s in a successful long-term relationship. Talk about the ideal expert.

Jeney, who is also the founder of the subscription-based Modern Love Boxthis link opens in a new tab for couples, has been with her partner for about a decade, and has been in private practice for three years. She sees about 20 to 25 clients per week, mostly couples but many individuals, too, and the majority of her clients …

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Sex Confessions: 13 Women Who Want Sex More Than Their Male Partners Share Their Stories

Contrary to what the Wall Street Journal and countless sitcoms seem to think, there are plenty of women who want sex more than their male partners.

To put the only stereotype of the frigid female to rest — and to shed light on the dissatisfaction a lot of women feel in their sexual relationships — we put out a call for stories from women who had been physically involved with a partner who didn’t share their sex drive.

The emails poured in. From age 25 to 65, single, in relationships and married, women wrote to us about how they have struggled — or are still struggling — with the fact that they want sex more than their partners, often much, much more. We present their stories below not to blame men or women for these issues, but to showcase that sexual frequency is an issue for partners regardless of …

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Four intercourse-related things every woman should know by age 25


This is the initial stage of a woman’s sexual experience. Women will often notice it by the feeling of “wetness” as they begin to feel sexually “turned on”. It is characterised by other manifestations such as an increase in her heart rate and faster breathing. Her skin may appear flushed or have beads of sweat. This would explain why men talk about a woman’s ‘tightness’; it is because the female body has been created to make the vaginal canal narrower thus increasing the grasp, which enhances the male’s own sexual experience.


In this phase, a woman will experience an increase in the responses experienced in the excitement phase. Breathing will become more intense, blood flow to the vagina will increase, vaginal walls swell even more. Other indicators of this phase include increase muscle tension and muscle spasms, usually evident in the hands, feet and even the face.


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10 Things Every Woman Should Know by 25

1. Get a Clarisonic. Oh my god, doooo it. It’s like a weird vibrator-shaped electric toothbrush for your face, and cleans 10 times better than your hands or a washcloth. I’m not getting paid to say this. Every beautiful girl I know has one, and also me. You’ll never look back.

2. Cut the social fat. That one friend of your ex who’s kind of boring but always wanted to have sex with you so he usually picks up the drinks tab? Stop texting him back. That former Goth girl from your high school who’s constantly got baby pictures popping up on your timeline? Unfriend. Keep a core group close and drop the rest. Ain’t nobody got time for that.

3. Stop judging your friend’s dickhead fiancée. You may not have liked that she was dating a dickhead, but now they’re engaged, and you are no longer allowed to be …

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BDSM: How to introduce the idea to your partner

BDSM includes many practices: bandage, whipping, shibari, needle games and much more. Fantasies associated with these or other BDSM practitioners occur in almost all. But here comes a series of questions. How to offer this to a partner? How to make the practice safe? How to implement the practice with the necessary attributes? How to choose suitable for the first experience devices? In all this, we will try to understand the article – BDSM for beginners. You can find the best sex toy for squirting too.

First, you need to understand what kind of practice attracts you. Further, discuss it with a partner, BDSM practices are not something that should be started suddenly and unexpectedly. Check to see if your partner is against such an experiment, and together determine how hard or soft the impact should be and what accessories you want to use for this.

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